My most-recent recollection of self-consciousness about my hair must have been less than three weeks ago, even if it had always been in my subconscious one way or the other long before then. I do like my hair, and I’ve never had any problems with it except when it becomes too much to carry around, and I have dealt with that by cutting it down at the right time, getting a good comb, or wearing a nice-fitting cap. But a friend had looked at my hair during a minor discussion about interracial marriage and said “Whooo! I’d never ever want my child to have your kind of hair. It’s looks like jute! I would cry if I had to look at something like this on my child’s head every morning. How will I live with myself?” It would have been funny if she was only joking, but in the expressions of her hair preference for an unborn child, I found a certain seriousness that has kept the relevance of the issue around my head (no pun intended) for a while.
So when I finally sat down on Saturday to watch Chris Rock’s comedy/documentary called Good Hair to the end, I was prepared for a journey of discovery, pleased that someone was taking a journalistic trip into the politics, the culture and the world of hair, and I was there to witness it with him. Chris Rock has been one of my favourite comedians and thinkers, and I had heard good things about the movie. But all through the theatre run of Good Hair in the theatre, it just never showed up in Edwardsville, so I have had to wait for the DVD. Now that I am finally through with it, I can tell you without a doubt that it is one of the best documentaries I’ve seen in a long while. Ever.
The documentary according to Rock was inspired by his three year old daughter’s question to him about whether her hair was “good hair”. The pursuit of the answer to the question took the comedian around the world from his base in the United States to India where young religious women in the country volunteer to have their heads shaven in temples every time, to Los Angeles and Atlanta in the United States where said hair are eventually used as beauty enhancements after having been sold by the priests in whose temples the hairs were acquired, to the dealer who would later process them into a presentable and usable form. Apparently, as the movie shows, India is the biggest source of hair weaves and attachments to the developed world, especially black women. What Chris Rock very vividly portrays is not just a kind of displeasure of (black) women with their own hair types for a foreign one, but also their sometimes unexplainable nonchalance as to the implication of economic enslavement that comes with it. I grew up in a household of so many women so the idea of weaves is not strange to me, yet over the years of interaction with women either as family, friends, lovers or just plain acquaintances, I still haven’t got myself around the motivations that must fuel such an addiction to straightening, weaves, and a different kind of look than permitted by the hair’s natural characteristics.
So in putting the movie/documentary together, Chris Rock interviewed the Reverend Al Sharpton, the civil rights activist and a former James Brown fan whose physical identity is defined by his straightened all-back hairstyle; the poet and writer Maya Angelou who revealed to much surprise that she never used the “relaxer” until she was seventy years old; Nia Long, a hollywood actor with a fondness for weaves; Ice-T, who once confessed to have had a mug shot while wearing one of the hair rollers used after a relaxer; Eve, Salt N Pepa, and very many others ordinary Americans as regards their motivations, drawbacks and challenges of wearing weaves, as well as their dos and don’ts.
Dos:
(I can’t remember)
Don’ts:
Never touch a black woman’s hair (except you’re friends)
Never touch your girlfriend’s hair. (What? Yes, you heard right. Don’t do it, even while in bed together. Alright! I’d never heard this one before.)
(For women) Never immerse your hair in water, not even in the pool…
Don’t ask a (black) woman whether her hair is real or fake.
among many others.
The movie has however been criticized for failing to provide answers to the question of motivation of the women who go through extreme pain to look “good” with Sodium Hydroxide relaxers or imported Indian hair obtained mostly by some kind of exploitation, or whether the percentage of African and African-American women who prefer straightened or weaved hair fall into a majority. In my opinion, it wasn’t really the comedian’s place to provide such answers. From it’s very nature, the movie/documentary was made to be eye-opening through questions and queries rather than through answers through the actor’s mouth. And this format worked very well to take the viewer into the very many dimensions of the politics of hair.
From the despair in my Indian friend’s mind about the possibility of ever having a child with “jute” African hair, to the not favourable (or at least understandably condescending) perception that educated Indians must now have of Hollywood stars and ordinary African folks from all over the world who spend a fortune every year to acquire their kind of human hair, to the criminality of such religion that must brainwash young women to give up their hair for free as sacrifice to God while such is immediately sold for huge sums of money to the highest bidder, to the very many dynamics that makes the business of hair a multi-billion dollar industry in the world (with the black community occupying only on the paying – and not the earning – side), and the finickiness of all my female friends about how their hair looks whenever I whip out my camera for a quick shot, I have definitely found a renewed interest – thanks to Good Hair – in the phenomenon of women’s hair, and the cultural/economic/political dimensions of their shade, colour, length and style. And I’m not always pleased.
What I should add here is that the movie/documentary is VERY hilarious. What else would you expect from Chris Rock? Every family should watch it. Find the trailer here.
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buki at http://YourWebsite
I will never carry my hair au naturelle, its simply too unruly. I prefer to straighten and braid and now I dislike weaves even more than before.
For the majority, I believe the truth is that we want to look like the “in crowd”.
Posted at February 22, 2010 on 8:09am.
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Kola Tubosun at http://www.ktravula.com
Buki, do you mind at all that the weave you wear could have come from some kind of (religious) deceit in a foreign country involving young women 😀 ?
Posted at February 23, 2010 on 12:04am.
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Jaycee at http://light-her-lamp.blogspot.com
Over the past couple of years I’ve come to realize that straightening my hair with chemicals has spoiled the natural beauty it was intended to have. I’m on a journey to self-discovering my natural God-given hair now. And it feels good.
I don’t think many women think or know that their weaves or extensions are a produce of economic enslavement.
Posted at February 22, 2010 on 10:25am.
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Kola Tubosun at http://www.ktravula.com
I’ve waited so long for this voice of support. It is this part about economic enslavement that I do really hope that many (African) women pay attention to when they pay a fortune to purchase hair from some other continent, or subject their hair to the so called “creamy crack” of the sodium hydroxide relaxers.
Posted at February 23, 2010 on 12:03am.
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Clarissa at http://clarissasbox.blogspot.com
Have you read this great short story on love and selling hair: http://www.auburn.edu/~vestmon/Gift_of_the_Magi.html
It’s very short and very touching.
It kind of makes me think of me. 🙂 Although I never had to sell my hair, I would. For love. 🙂
Posted at February 23, 2010 on 8:13pm.
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Kola Tubosun at http://www.ktravula.com
I so LOOOVE that story. It is touching, yet short. That is the kind of story I wish I could write.
And it is delightfully and humorously graphic too. I loved this: “For ten seconds let us regard with discreet scrutiny some inconsequential object in the other direction.”
Thanks for sharing.
Posted at February 23, 2010 on 8:25pm.
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Myne Whitman at http://www.mynewhitman.com
I didn’t see the movie and don’t think I will. I just felt it wasn’t necessary.
Posted at February 22, 2010 on 1:38pm.
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Kola Tubosun at http://www.ktravula.com
Myne, why did you think it was unnecessary?
Posted at February 23, 2010 on 12:03am.
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Kola Tubosun at http://www.ktravula.com
Like I said yesterday, I can under almost understand why (some) women may not like this movie. That said, I am happy that the truth is out, and it might set some people free 🙂
Posted at February 22, 2010 on 3:47pm.
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Clarissa at http://clarissasbox.blogspot.com
Wow, suddenly hair is the hottest topic in the blogosphere. 🙂
My hair looks fantastic when it’s straightened out. But it’s such a drag to go through the process that I do it maybe once every couple of years.
Posted at February 22, 2010 on 3:56pm.
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Kola Tubosun at http://www.ktravula.com
LOL. I also hope that this post generates the kind of discussion that takes the issues from where the movie stopped, and I am ready for the venom that must come in my direction for advocating that black women leave their hair the way it is 😀
Posted at February 22, 2010 on 4:18pm.
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Clarissa at http://clarissasbox.blogspot.com
Oh my God, Kola, you are actually TRYING to make people angry?? Are you turning into me? 🙂 Be careful, for anger is contagious. 🙂 🙂
Posted at February 22, 2010 on 5:42pm.
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Kola Tubosun at http://www.ktravula.com
No in fact, I’m not trying to make them angry, but I’m aware of the kind of emotion that women’s hair generates in discussion, especially when a man tries to bring logic into it. In the end, it is a personal and perhaps emotional issue for women, and they are not always prepared to discuss it on the basis of logic, which is fine 🙂 But they should discuss it anyway.
I wonder if Caucasian women use weaves as well, and what their motivations are. In the end, it is probably not a black woman’s issue as it is a woman’s issue in general.
Posted at February 22, 2010 on 7:49pm.
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Unruly at http://YourWebsite
I haven’t watched the movie and I won’t till someone forces me to. I applaud him for uncovering the root (no pun intended) of the famous indian hair but his wife rocks it like the rest of the women in the movie. I haven’t seen Malaika on the red carpet without her weave or lace wig on.
I always call black men hypocritical for mentioning black womens “obsession” with changing their hairstyle from “what it should be” to an altered state whether it be through perms, weaves, braids, wigs etc. Cause, in the same breathe, they will be quick to pass up the woman with her afro or natural hair because it is not “cute” to them (although some of us don’t know how to carry natural hair and might be better off permed, I always want to hand some chic a comb because she left her hair looking crazy talking about its an afro…no its unkempt, comb that bad boy and oil it haba…o and wash it too, don’t neglect it natural hair is just as much work as permed o) anyway I digress.
I am an African woman with a lot of length to her locks and I wear it in different forms…braided, straight, etc…whatever I am feeling like at the time but I can tell you that there is a different reaction from men when my hair is straightened as opposed to when its in say a ponytail or braided (its to long to be in a fro of any kind that I would like). I have heard some Naija men say not so nice things about the girl with her hair unwoven, un wigged and even un-permed (lol, I like my new terms). Men are unfortunately the driving force behind some womens decision to wear their hair a certain way, its sad but its true.
And some of those rules up top are not as popular with African women, we swim…with our perms (lol), we let you play with our hair…weaved up or not, and we work out (all the crazy looking black women at my gym with multi colored scarves are African women…moi including), I applaud us for not letting hair get in the way of health…but anyways, our men have a hand in why some women carry their hair the way they do.
Good write up Ghoul. O and bump the person that talked about your hair like that…mschewww nonsense.
Posted at February 22, 2010 on 8:17pm.
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Kola Tubosun at http://www.ktravula.com
Dear Unruly,
LOL, thank you for your contribution, and for having my back. I like my “jute” hair just fine, and I’m sure you do too 🙂
And I too never understood how one could possibly make love to a woman and not being able to touch her weave/hair. That is impossible! Could that then possibly explain why some African-American men are so aggressive? hehehe I’m being cheeky here, just in case someone feels the need to attack me. Some African men are aggressive too, and they have always had the free pass to touch their women’s hair all day long, so that answers my question.
Posted at February 23, 2010 on 12:11am.
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Clarissa at http://clarissasbox.blogspot.com
Caucasian models use weaves quite a bit. I would like to try but I have a lot of hair anyways. I hear it’s painful, though.
Your picture of my hair produced a lot of discussion at a Russian website. People keep speculating if my hair is real. 🙂 So you will have some Russian crazy people visiting your blog. 🙂
Posted at February 22, 2010 on 10:02pm.
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Kola Tubosun at http://www.ktravula.com
I so welcome all the “crazy” Russian people. If they ask me, I’d tell them that I’ve seen and (almost) touched your hair 🙂 so I believe that it’s real. hehehe
Posted at February 23, 2010 on 12:17am.
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Clarissa at http://clarissasbox.blogspot.com
I swear to God, I will start sending out samples soon. 🙂 Maybe collect some money for a worthy cause. 🙂 🙂
Posted at February 23, 2010 on 8:09pm.
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Kola Tubosun at http://www.ktravula.com
Bring it on! hehehe
Like Chris Rock advised an Indian woman in the movie, let me give you the same words: “If you see a black woman coming towards you with a scissors, you’d better run the other way!”
LOL
Posted at February 23, 2010 on 8:14pm.
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Zeeeee at http://YourWebsite
Good hair is what one feels comfortable in for me, I prefer to braid, staighten or weave because they are easier to maintain even though more expensive.
Posted at February 22, 2010 on 11:47pm.
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Kola Tubosun at http://www.ktravula.com
Alrighty.
Posted at February 23, 2010 on 9:41am.
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Yemi Adesanya at http://YourWebsite
My hair in its natural state is difficult to manage, I wont be able to comb it, pack it, send it in any direction and still look sane on a daily basis, hence the need to straighten it out or weave it. I am not very confortable with weave-on or wig because of the heat in my part of the world, but I still wear it once in a while (only the synthetic ones), just to look different.
The real human hair from India and other places is just too expensive (for me) and often too long (irritates in this heat)…and the thought of wearing someone elses hair is just creepy.
Each person would have their reasons for wearing their hair in a certain way or not. For me, it is about convenience, looking sane, looking different sometimes and being comfortable always at an affordable price; I could say the same about my dressing.
Posted at February 23, 2010 on 1:41am.
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Kola Tubosun at http://www.ktravula.com
A question: did you/will you “relax” you baby’s hair. If not, is that conditioned by any moral or health consideration for the innocent scalp of the little baby? If so, why?
Posted at February 23, 2010 on 9:49am.
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Unruly at http://YourWebsite
No relaxing of baby’s hair o. That is something that a lot of Black Americans do. Not to say Africans don’t do it but you see most parents saying my child will not perm ever (lol ever mostly means till she is off to sec. sch or college). There is such a big push to go natural here because the women say, I don’t know what my real hair is like. Heck I know what my hair is like, I lived with that bad boy all my life till I was able to pay for my own perms.
My child will make the decision as to what path her hair will go in (and she will make that decision when she is able to pay for her perms and weaves tehe). Till then it will be maintained how mine was maintained…through plaiting, braids, and good old hairstyles…if she makes mouth too much we will tread it.
Posted at February 23, 2010 on 12:14pm.
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Yemi Adesanya at http://YourWebsite
I will not relax my baby’s hair, foremost of my concerns is her health of course, when she is older I may consider it or have her decide how to manage her hair when she can.
She may not have to wait until after secondary school like I did though.
Posted at February 24, 2010 on 3:39am.
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Abi Idowu at http://YourWebsite
I’ve got dreadlocks and while I confess that it started out as a way to cut costs- those wigs, relaxers and onidiris cost a little piece of the moon, but it later grew into a statement. It was baffling to me how many women attacked me over it. I got the usual ‘you’re inviting the spirit of madness’ talk, then the ‘I’ll pay for your hair, let me take you to my hairdresser’. Despite having it conditioned professionally every 3 months and washing it at home myself inbetween, only men wante to touch it. As my dreads grew, so did my male fan base-if I got money for everytime a man asked to touch my hair- I for rich well well o! But my fellow womenfolk? I have to watch them to be sure they’re not holding a pair of scissors behind their back! Why is natural hair so abhorent to women?
Posted at May 29, 2010 on 6:30pm.
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Tomi at http://YourWebsite
Lovely article, lovely video!
Its a hot topic with many fierce advocates on either side.
I think tis a personal choice but everyone should have firm reasons for making their hair the way they do!
I have had a weave only twice in my life and the experience made me feel like I was carrying a pot of worms on my hair:) you can tell it did not last long on my head. I guess other people have had more favorable experiences that sway them to using them. To every man his own flavor of meat:)
Posted at March 4, 2011 on 12:26pm.